Wednesday, July 08, 2009
It's surprisingly accurate!
Though I haven't watched the movie....the short description sounds quite correct.....
Monday, July 06, 2009
Beyond space and time...
Dear Aaji,
When Aai told me on Thursday night, that you had passed away, I could not digest it. I knew it was coming, and yet it was hard to believe at first. But it sunk in, and I found myself short of breath. I did not know whether I was going to cry. But I did. As much as I had prayed for your suffering to end, despite feeling guilty for it, for so long, I was grieving for a void, that now nobody can ever fill. I was bitter for the fact that, I am now, officially without grandparents. And I was distressed that it has been more than a year since I saw you or spoke to you. The last time when I saw you, you were already losing your memory day by day. You had asked me again and again, about my life in US, how I live here, and I had repeated everything to you again and again. You were weaker and older than any other time that I remembered, and I was filled with sadness, to see you like that. I regretted then bringing you one gift from US, that you could no longer use - a book. You used to love reading, not just Hindi and Marathi, but also, English. I was awed by this, since even Aai declines to read English books if she can help it. But then, you could no longer retain information in your mind for more than a few minutes, to read an entire book. But you appreciated it just the same, looking at me lovingly. My heart breaks to think that I will never ever be bestowed with a love, that only grandparents are capable of, that I will never see you looking at me lovingly and with pride, asking me about my life, my studies.
I remember, Aai complaining proudly, that I am your favorite grandchild and hence she cannot scold me in front of you without making you angry as well. I took advantage of it so many times, getting away with things, that nobody else did. I remember when I was leaving for US, you instructed me to not marry an American. I could see you were worried beyond belief, wondering why I was going at all. I remember you telling me to be guarded and alert, to not roam around alone and to study and finish masters sincerely.
I should have seen this coming, and I think at some level I did too, when I got the news of you being admitted in hospital some weeks back. And I kept praying to God to end your pain, and I kept feeling guilty for it. Now that you are gone, I see my prayers were answered. But I don't feel guilty anymore, now that I know your pain is over finally. And don't you worry Aaji, I will be fine. I will always remember you. I will always look at your struggle in life, when I am struggling. I will always remember your patience and giving nature when I am short of them. I will survive, cos I am your granddaughter and you were a survivor.
When I heard of your departure, I cried bitterly. I regretted not having been in India. For the first time I felt more lonely than ever. And I wanted to hide my face in Aai's lap and bawl. Instead, I cried in my pillow, till I fell asleep. When I called the next day, your body had departed too, with all the rituals complete. I felt some peace to know that. And I felt immense pride when Aai told me that you donated your eyes. Looking at you it's hard to believe someone can be that giving. I never told you this - but I am proud to have had you as my grandma. I say "have had" cos I don't want to stop you from the next journey that you have now undertaken(like Baba says), or want you to hesitate. Don't worry about me, I will be fine. I am sad that you are now gone, but I am happy that you did not suffer much. I will miss you. Always. And I wish I could be more like you - patient, giving and a fighter to the end.
Love,
Me
P.S.: I will always miss the lonacha that you helped Aai prepare every summer, and which never tastes the same if you are not a part of it.
When Aai told me on Thursday night, that you had passed away, I could not digest it. I knew it was coming, and yet it was hard to believe at first. But it sunk in, and I found myself short of breath. I did not know whether I was going to cry. But I did. As much as I had prayed for your suffering to end, despite feeling guilty for it, for so long, I was grieving for a void, that now nobody can ever fill. I was bitter for the fact that, I am now, officially without grandparents. And I was distressed that it has been more than a year since I saw you or spoke to you. The last time when I saw you, you were already losing your memory day by day. You had asked me again and again, about my life in US, how I live here, and I had repeated everything to you again and again. You were weaker and older than any other time that I remembered, and I was filled with sadness, to see you like that. I regretted then bringing you one gift from US, that you could no longer use - a book. You used to love reading, not just Hindi and Marathi, but also, English. I was awed by this, since even Aai declines to read English books if she can help it. But then, you could no longer retain information in your mind for more than a few minutes, to read an entire book. But you appreciated it just the same, looking at me lovingly. My heart breaks to think that I will never ever be bestowed with a love, that only grandparents are capable of, that I will never see you looking at me lovingly and with pride, asking me about my life, my studies.
I remember, Aai complaining proudly, that I am your favorite grandchild and hence she cannot scold me in front of you without making you angry as well. I took advantage of it so many times, getting away with things, that nobody else did. I remember when I was leaving for US, you instructed me to not marry an American. I could see you were worried beyond belief, wondering why I was going at all. I remember you telling me to be guarded and alert, to not roam around alone and to study and finish masters sincerely.
I should have seen this coming, and I think at some level I did too, when I got the news of you being admitted in hospital some weeks back. And I kept praying to God to end your pain, and I kept feeling guilty for it. Now that you are gone, I see my prayers were answered. But I don't feel guilty anymore, now that I know your pain is over finally. And don't you worry Aaji, I will be fine. I will always remember you. I will always look at your struggle in life, when I am struggling. I will always remember your patience and giving nature when I am short of them. I will survive, cos I am your granddaughter and you were a survivor.
When I heard of your departure, I cried bitterly. I regretted not having been in India. For the first time I felt more lonely than ever. And I wanted to hide my face in Aai's lap and bawl. Instead, I cried in my pillow, till I fell asleep. When I called the next day, your body had departed too, with all the rituals complete. I felt some peace to know that. And I felt immense pride when Aai told me that you donated your eyes. Looking at you it's hard to believe someone can be that giving. I never told you this - but I am proud to have had you as my grandma. I say "have had" cos I don't want to stop you from the next journey that you have now undertaken(like Baba says), or want you to hesitate. Don't worry about me, I will be fine. I am sad that you are now gone, but I am happy that you did not suffer much. I will miss you. Always. And I wish I could be more like you - patient, giving and a fighter to the end.
Love,
Me
P.S.: I will always miss the lonacha that you helped Aai prepare every summer, and which never tastes the same if you are not a part of it.
Wednesday, July 01, 2009
I tagged myself!
Since nobody was tagging me...like ever(!!) I decided to take initiative and do it myself. I found this here.
1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought?
"Hope my sun allergy does not increase.."
2. How much cash do you have in your wallet right now?
5$
3. What’s a word that rhymes with DOOR?
Soar
4. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone?
My roommate - J...and I had not even seen it till now...thanks to this I just saw it :P
5. What is your favorite ring tone on your phone?
I haven't used ring tones since like forever now...but I used to love - "Saathiya" :)
6. What are you wearing right now?
Floral purple and orange chiffon sleeveless top and black trousers, with black thin sweater and black ballerina shoes.
7. Do you label yourself?
Yes. Many times. With many labels.
8. Name the brand of the shoes you currently own?
I own many(shoes, that is). Some are not branded, some are brands I don't recall(but bought them from DSW), and sports shoes are Reebok, bought them 2 years back.
9.Bright or Dark Room?
Bright. Always. Can't stand darkness. I sometimes like switching the lights on even in a car while traveling at night.
10. What do you think about the person who took this survey before you?
Found this randomly....while stumbling from blog to blog...but his posts are nice, and I am sure so is he :)
11. What does your watch look like?
A Guess Silver watch with black dial, M gifted me this on my Birthday.
12. What were you doing at midnight last night?
I am pretty sure dreaming things, which I can't remember now! :P
13. What did your last text message you received on your cell say?
A msg from M intimating that he loves me...and asking me why I am so amazing :P
14. What’s a word that you say a lot?
"F**k"
15. Who told you he/she loved you last?(please exclude spouse , family, children)
M (if boyfriends are not excluded) :)
16. Last furry thing you touched?
My piglet soft toy.
17. Favorite age you have been so far?
There have been many - but I think 17-18, when I was in junior college, without liabilities, worries and having a ball with friends every frigging day!!
18. What was the last thing you said to someone?
"Sure." (to a colleague)
19.The last song you listened to?
Right Round - Flo Rida
20. Where did you live in 1987?
Rajgarh (M.P.) [I think..]
21. Are you jealous of anyone?
Umm....not really..... :)
22. Is anyone jealous of you?
Maybe...I really don't know...
23. Name three things that you have on you at all times?
Mobile phone, Wallet/cards, my forgetful self :P
24. What’s your favorite town/city?
Bangalore, New York City, Boston. In that order.
25. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it?
I think my friend "Shruti"(yea thats her name too) in engineering.
26. Can you change the oil in a car?
Hell. No.
27. Your first love/big crush: what is the last thing you heard about him/her?
First big crush as in school. Last I heard from him, we were chatting non-sense shit online, and he was working in some company in Bombay.
28. Does anything hurt on your body right now?
My lower back, cos of Spondylolisthesis :(
29.What is your current desktop picture?
Office PC - Blue color.
Personal Laptop - Beautiful black wallpaper with funky art image and music written on it.
30. Have you been burnt by love?
Yep. With my ex. I've never told this to anyone but I used to cry for no reason at all, and be depressed most of the time, when I was with him.
Its the worst. Hope I never be there again. Hope nobody is.
And I tag -
M, Saurabh, Mansi, Guy Next Door, Sai and Pari.
Edited to add: Tagging Chintan & Shamika too. Hopefully this will make them blog! :P
1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought?
"Hope my sun allergy does not increase.."
2. How much cash do you have in your wallet right now?
5$
3. What’s a word that rhymes with DOOR?
Soar
4. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone?
My roommate - J...and I had not even seen it till now...thanks to this I just saw it :P
5. What is your favorite ring tone on your phone?
I haven't used ring tones since like forever now...but I used to love - "Saathiya" :)
6. What are you wearing right now?
Floral purple and orange chiffon sleeveless top and black trousers, with black thin sweater and black ballerina shoes.
7. Do you label yourself?
Yes. Many times. With many labels.
8. Name the brand of the shoes you currently own?
I own many(shoes, that is). Some are not branded, some are brands I don't recall(but bought them from DSW), and sports shoes are Reebok, bought them 2 years back.
9.Bright or Dark Room?
Bright. Always. Can't stand darkness. I sometimes like switching the lights on even in a car while traveling at night.
10. What do you think about the person who took this survey before you?
Found this randomly....while stumbling from blog to blog...but his posts are nice, and I am sure so is he :)
11. What does your watch look like?
A Guess Silver watch with black dial, M gifted me this on my Birthday.
12. What were you doing at midnight last night?
I am pretty sure dreaming things, which I can't remember now! :P
13. What did your last text message you received on your cell say?
A msg from M intimating that he loves me...and asking me why I am so amazing :P
14. What’s a word that you say a lot?
"F**k"
15. Who told you he/she loved you last?(please exclude spouse , family, children)
M (if boyfriends are not excluded) :)
16. Last furry thing you touched?
My piglet soft toy.
17. Favorite age you have been so far?
There have been many - but I think 17-18, when I was in junior college, without liabilities, worries and having a ball with friends every frigging day!!
18. What was the last thing you said to someone?
"Sure." (to a colleague)
19.The last song you listened to?
Right Round - Flo Rida
20. Where did you live in 1987?
Rajgarh (M.P.) [I think..]
21. Are you jealous of anyone?
Umm....not really..... :)
22. Is anyone jealous of you?
Maybe...I really don't know...
23. Name three things that you have on you at all times?
Mobile phone, Wallet/cards, my forgetful self :P
24. What’s your favorite town/city?
Bangalore, New York City, Boston. In that order.
25. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it?
I think my friend "Shruti"(yea thats her name too) in engineering.
26. Can you change the oil in a car?
Hell. No.
27. Your first love/big crush: what is the last thing you heard about him/her?
First big crush as in school. Last I heard from him, we were chatting non-sense shit online, and he was working in some company in Bombay.
28. Does anything hurt on your body right now?
My lower back, cos of Spondylolisthesis :(
29.What is your current desktop picture?
Office PC - Blue color.
Personal Laptop - Beautiful black wallpaper with funky art image and music written on it.
30. Have you been burnt by love?
Yep. With my ex. I've never told this to anyone but I used to cry for no reason at all, and be depressed most of the time, when I was with him.
Its the worst. Hope I never be there again. Hope nobody is.
And I tag -
M, Saurabh, Mansi, Guy Next Door, Sai and Pari.
Edited to add: Tagging Chintan & Shamika too. Hopefully this will make them blog! :P
Friday, June 26, 2009
There's something about....
So, I am sure, the area where I work...there's a serious derth of women. Otherwise how the hell do explain, another guy asking me out in the week following this. Right in the middle of the road no less. If anything, this was more dramatic, but this time I was less brutal (acc to me anyway). And trust me, I am not showing off. I waited, I waited and I waited for people to ask me out for so many years....and now.This. Maybe I am US-material, considering both the guys who asked me out this year(yea, there was one last year too:P) were Americans. :)
In any case, it does make you feel real good! I mean, some guy walking on the road calls out to you from behind, and then struggles to get his words together for at least five minutes before admitting he wants to take you out for coffee. I concluded some happy things about myself from this -
1. I look good from behind(too)!! :P
2. I appear intimidating.
Okay now I gotta rush to work...
Later!
In any case, it does make you feel real good! I mean, some guy walking on the road calls out to you from behind, and then struggles to get his words together for at least five minutes before admitting he wants to take you out for coffee. I concluded some happy things about myself from this -
1. I look good from behind(too)!! :P
2. I appear intimidating.
Okay now I gotta rush to work...
Later!
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
The other end of the spectrum..
Remember what I had posted a few days back about relationships & how to make one work...
Well, yesterday I saw the other end of the spectrum...aka...M :)
It went something like this -
M - I read on your blog, that you are sad since your conversation with S...What's wrong...?
Me - Nothing, just that we had a sad conversation...
M - About what?
Me - Just the world..and what a bad state it is in...and how people are so difficult to deal with....and how they can be so irrational at times....and about love and relationships...and how just love is not enough to hold a relationship together...
M - Yea...that's true....you also need lust....
LOL!
How can you not laugh at this? Obviously which is what he aimed to do with his statement anyway...! It's too funny.... :)
PS: S is my very very close friend & roommate....
Later!
Well, yesterday I saw the other end of the spectrum...aka...M :)
It went something like this -
M - I read on your blog, that you are sad since your conversation with S...What's wrong...?
Me - Nothing, just that we had a sad conversation...
M - About what?
Me - Just the world..and what a bad state it is in...and how people are so difficult to deal with....and how they can be so irrational at times....and about love and relationships...and how just love is not enough to hold a relationship together...
M - Yea...that's true....you also need lust....
LOL!
How can you not laugh at this? Obviously which is what he aimed to do with his statement anyway...! It's too funny.... :)
PS: S is my very very close friend & roommate....
Later!
Monday, June 22, 2009
Thoughts fleeting in & out of my head right about now...
- I want to talk to M about how bad my day is going....and how the world is being so so unfair to me....Wish he would finish his exam fast...
- Why is S, so disillusioned with love....worrying about it a little....
- Missing mom....everyone at home...wondering how they are...waiting to call till the sun rises on the other side of the globe...
- Am I in a wrong profession?
- I have to blog about several topics before they reach their expiry date....
- Sad...mostly cos of last night's conversation with S....
- What happens next in the book I am reading..
- Why is S, so disillusioned with love....worrying about it a little....
- Missing mom....everyone at home...wondering how they are...waiting to call till the sun rises on the other side of the globe...
- Am I in a wrong profession?
- I have to blog about several topics before they reach their expiry date....
- Sad...mostly cos of last night's conversation with S....
- What happens next in the book I am reading..
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Have you ever noticed...
...that Shammi Kapoor used to act like he has to pee really really badly, in most of his songs....huh??I believe he was pretty popular...I wonder why?? Has nobody else noticed this?I mean even his expressions are sometimes like that, and that pose, with one leg bent, up and close....you get the picture!
Have a wonderful Wednesday evening!
Have a wonderful Wednesday evening!
Monday, June 08, 2009
Finally...
...got rid of the cheesy name I was using to post my posts - "Enigmatic Illusion"...LOL....
(Today I think is "LOL" day, since I've used it ten thousand times already)
In my defense, I was small(er) when I started this blog & came up with it. I did not know what cheesy was back then. I do now :)
Later!
(Today I think is "LOL" day, since I've used it ten thousand times already)
In my defense, I was small(er) when I started this blog & came up with it. I did not know what cheesy was back then. I do now :)
Later!
Block
I have nothing to write..I mean there are so many things I could write about, but I just can't. So I'll do what I have done so much during engineering viva's - pull out words out of my ass and talk, or in this case, write.
A couple of notable incidents happened last week. One being, ikea shopping and how!! We went there to shop for M as he's moved into his own room now. And we shopped our asses off!! I am big fan of ikea. It's a furniture & household stuff shop. You can just go there, and find every-frigging-thing, that you'll need in your house. The products may not be that sturdy, but they sure have a great display of it, which makes you want to buy them. No. Really. And considering how BIG it is, they manage it pretty well, save for some glitches here & there. I let M build his bachelor's room, with all black, blue stuff, and no colors. After all he did buy that bookcase to keep all my books! It was also the time, he drove a car in US for the first time. I have always seen couples(can't believe I just called us a "couple" indirectly tho it may be, I guess I am growing up, although it did panic me a little to do that!!) fight sitting in those two seats, the driver's & and the navigator's. And as M sucks at directions, I had a more than active role in giving directions :), we also tried. At least, I did by yelling & panicking & fretting more than once, but he only retaliated by singing more !! It was a fun date, and we survived a day of just each other. One down, some 20-odd-thousand more to go! :P
Another one, being (in case you've lost track there were two.... not one, but TWO notable incidents in my life last week, oh yea, I live on the edge, watcha gonna do???). So I was saying, the second incident being, a guy asked me out on the subway, on my way to work. So this is what happened - I got in the train & buried my face into the book, no not to sleep, to read, just like everyday. After some time I looked up and I see this white guy, dressed in an expensive looking suit, looking at me. I looked for a second or two then smiled at him politely thinking, he's never seen an Indian before (that's really really improbable, but I had not been awake for more than two hours, what do you expect!!), and again went back to my book. After some time I looked up again, to see him looking at me again, and smiling at me and waving a hi at me. (Oh yea I read like that, I read for some time & then take a break to think about what I just read, otherwise I get absorbed enough to miss my stop!). So now, this is not new, I have seen many people do that, friendly that they are, I did not think anything odd about it. I only got a little excited thinking he might be working in some fancy bank, and started picturing forwarding my resume to him some time in the future:P. He caught up with me on the next platform of my transfer-stop, and started talking to me. Considering what I had been picturing in my head, I too spoke with him very politely. We exchanged names, and that's it. We got into the next train & I went back to my book, only to be interrupted in two minutes by a hand placing a card in my book. He says to me, "here's a lil bookmark for your book". I go in my head, "lol!". And then he continues, "Would you like to go for dinner with me?". I sense that everybody in the compartment is watching us, but before I can stop myself, I blurt out a loud, "No!". Yea yea I know next time I'll be a little less cruel. He seems shocked, surprised as if he expected me to jump at the opportunity.(Men!). I tried to return his card to him, but he insisted asking me to think about it and call him. I was laughing right in his face, not knowing what to do! Thankfully my stop came & I got off the train, after saying bye to him! I checked the card, and it turns out he owns/works at "Sleepy's". LOL! So much for forwarding my resume! Though now I can think about getting some discount there at the price of looking pretty and going for dinner with him! :P
Awaiting me now, is a long week of putting together, all the stuff we bought from ikea. Its like building lego. Considering that's not one of M's skills, and I like everything my way, I'll be happily hammering & screwing & trying to fit things, while he (hopefully) cooks delish prawns for us :)
Later!
A couple of notable incidents happened last week. One being, ikea shopping and how!! We went there to shop for M as he's moved into his own room now. And we shopped our asses off!! I am big fan of ikea. It's a furniture & household stuff shop. You can just go there, and find every-frigging-thing, that you'll need in your house. The products may not be that sturdy, but they sure have a great display of it, which makes you want to buy them. No. Really. And considering how BIG it is, they manage it pretty well, save for some glitches here & there. I let M build his bachelor's room, with all black, blue stuff, and no colors. After all he did buy that bookcase to keep all my books! It was also the time, he drove a car in US for the first time. I have always seen couples(can't believe I just called us a "couple" indirectly tho it may be, I guess I am growing up, although it did panic me a little to do that!!) fight sitting in those two seats, the driver's & and the navigator's. And as M sucks at directions, I had a more than active role in giving directions :), we also tried. At least, I did by yelling & panicking & fretting more than once, but he only retaliated by singing more !! It was a fun date, and we survived a day of just each other. One down, some 20-odd-thousand more to go! :P
Another one, being (in case you've lost track there were two.... not one, but TWO notable incidents in my life last week, oh yea, I live on the edge, watcha gonna do???). So I was saying, the second incident being, a guy asked me out on the subway, on my way to work. So this is what happened - I got in the train & buried my face into the book, no not to sleep, to read, just like everyday. After some time I looked up and I see this white guy, dressed in an expensive looking suit, looking at me. I looked for a second or two then smiled at him politely thinking, he's never seen an Indian before (that's really really improbable, but I had not been awake for more than two hours, what do you expect!!), and again went back to my book. After some time I looked up again, to see him looking at me again, and smiling at me and waving a hi at me. (Oh yea I read like that, I read for some time & then take a break to think about what I just read, otherwise I get absorbed enough to miss my stop!). So now, this is not new, I have seen many people do that, friendly that they are, I did not think anything odd about it. I only got a little excited thinking he might be working in some fancy bank, and started picturing forwarding my resume to him some time in the future:P. He caught up with me on the next platform of my transfer-stop, and started talking to me. Considering what I had been picturing in my head, I too spoke with him very politely. We exchanged names, and that's it. We got into the next train & I went back to my book, only to be interrupted in two minutes by a hand placing a card in my book. He says to me, "here's a lil bookmark for your book". I go in my head, "lol!". And then he continues, "Would you like to go for dinner with me?". I sense that everybody in the compartment is watching us, but before I can stop myself, I blurt out a loud, "No!". Yea yea I know next time I'll be a little less cruel. He seems shocked, surprised as if he expected me to jump at the opportunity.(Men!). I tried to return his card to him, but he insisted asking me to think about it and call him. I was laughing right in his face, not knowing what to do! Thankfully my stop came & I got off the train, after saying bye to him! I checked the card, and it turns out he owns/works at "Sleepy's". LOL! So much for forwarding my resume! Though now I can think about getting some discount there at the price of looking pretty and going for dinner with him! :P
Awaiting me now, is a long week of putting together, all the stuff we bought from ikea. Its like building lego. Considering that's not one of M's skills, and I like everything my way, I'll be happily hammering & screwing & trying to fit things, while he (hopefully) cooks delish prawns for us :)
Later!
Wednesday, June 03, 2009
The perfect vacation...
is all about....
.....some delicious food & alcohol... :)
.....and some beautiful landscape...
.....and some great time with friends....
.....also some alone time "alone" & "with M"..... ;)
.....obviously incomplete without some getting lost....
......and then finally "pwn"ing the trek...
....with some "dangerous" stunts(not by me!)
and living in a beautiful abode & traveling in a sexy car....
Acadia Trip. Memorial Day Long Weekend 2009.
May 23, 2009 - May 25, 2009.
.....some delicious food & alcohol... :)
.....and some beautiful landscape...
.....and some great time with friends....
.....also some alone time "alone" & "with M"..... ;)
.....obviously incomplete without some getting lost....
......and then finally "pwn"ing the trek...
....with some "dangerous" stunts(not by me!)
and living in a beautiful abode & traveling in a sexy car....
Acadia Trip. Memorial Day Long Weekend 2009.
May 23, 2009 - May 25, 2009.
Monday, June 01, 2009
To make a relationship work
So, soon it will be a year of me being in a relationship. A second one. Not that I am proud of admitting I have been in more than one, but neither am I repentant about it, obviously. Sometimes things just don't work out. And I consider myself really really lucky to have found somebody, again.
So what makes it work, or not work?
From what I have learned till now, hiding you feelings, drowning your voice in lieu of not hurting the other one, and not giving yourself the due importance you own, NEVER works. And even though it seems like it, it wasn't so obvious for me.
So, if you are looking to absolutely not make it work(for what reason, I don't care), follow this religiously -
1. Suffocate the other one, by instructions, nagging, and questioning them on their thoughts, actions, hobbies, habits.
2. Try to change them, by telling them to goto gym, making them listen to your type of music, making them watch your type of movies, making them do what you like, making them eat what you like, making them wear what you like, asking them to change their values and pretty much mold them into what you want, and don't care if they lose their individuality and happiness meanwhile! You got what you want, who cares!
3. Insult & fight with them, over things they do differently. Mock their values, and thoughts. Ridicule their opinions.
4. Completely ignore what they like.
5. Give priority to everybody except them.
6. Don't trust them! Display your distrust, in public!
7. Also make sure to make no sacrifices for them, what-so-ever.
8. Doubt their capabilities, and do NOT show support & encouragement in difficult times.
9. Discuss your relationship problems with everybody but them.
10. Most importantly, keep pretending that things are going fine!
On the other hand, if you do want it to work, some things, which at least for me are really important are -
- Give each other the due space, not just in life, but in habit, way of life, hobby, activities.
- Give each other the freedom of thought & opinion.
- Respect each others' opinions, and learn to live with them, if possible learn to love & appreciate the beauty of difference.
- Take time to show your appreciation of this difference in thoughts, habits, hobbies, by adapting it once in a while. (for girls - if it means cracking fart-jokes, do it!) (for guys - if it means shopping whole day, go for it!)
- Learn to love, show-off your affection, even in public. (I never had to learn this, tho! :P)
- Learn to assert and put your foot down, for your loved one, even in front of your family, if need be.
- Appreciate the little sacrifices, you both make for each other. I always thought only the girl suffers on the friendship front with her girlfriends, but I realised, so does the guy with his friends.
Apart from the above and some other obvious ones like trust, faith etc etc....it also takes a lot of patience. No two people are same. Can never be. Learn to love the things you don't like about them. Learn to be patient. Also, the thing that is most needed, and almost always ignored, is reassurance. And its needed by both, not just the girl.
I swear I did not pick this out of Cosmo, but I sure do sound like it. And even though these have been iterated time & again, I felt I wanted to note them down. I don't know if a year is enough to judge where a relationship stands. I guess if you are happy, then you are good.
I just want to tell you M, that I am very happy (touch wood) with you. I love you. And I love your singing too, just don't land us behind bars for it, and we'll be good! :D I know we started off roughly, but since then you have made sure we don't sway :). I know and you know, how paranoid I was(sometimes I still am), how difficult it is for you sometimes to shrug off my past, how angry your past actions make me still, but despite all of this we have lasted almost a year(about a month short)!! Yaay for us!! It does not scare me to say that I want to see many more milestones with you. No wait, I am EXCITED to see them!! And also, love you for always always putting my interest before yours. And also being patient with me, with all my tantrums & complaints! And finding me beautiful & sexy when I myself don't feel like it. And wanting to know me inside out, beyond & above anyone has ever ventured to know. And trying to do that. And dreaming for me, dreaming for us. And....so much more....!
Also, stop goofing around and finish "The Kite Runner". And teach me Tennis. Also don't question me about this post. Cos with us, we have an edge due the natural chemistry we share! :)
And lastly - touch wood, touch wood, touch wood!!
For you -
Because of you
I forgot the smart ways to lie
Because of you
I'm running out of reasons to cry
When the friends are gone
When the party's over
We will still belong to each other
Underneath Your Clothes
There's an endless story
There's the man I chose,
There's my territory
- Shakira, "Underneath your clothes"
Edited to add - No more "happy anniversary, awww" mushy comments please :) they are just umm..too mushy!! Saurabh you were the first one so you are excused!! Comments on the rest of it, most welcome :)
So what makes it work, or not work?
From what I have learned till now, hiding you feelings, drowning your voice in lieu of not hurting the other one, and not giving yourself the due importance you own, NEVER works. And even though it seems like it, it wasn't so obvious for me.
So, if you are looking to absolutely not make it work(for what reason, I don't care), follow this religiously -
1. Suffocate the other one, by instructions, nagging, and questioning them on their thoughts, actions, hobbies, habits.
2. Try to change them, by telling them to goto gym, making them listen to your type of music, making them watch your type of movies, making them do what you like, making them eat what you like, making them wear what you like, asking them to change their values and pretty much mold them into what you want, and don't care if they lose their individuality and happiness meanwhile! You got what you want, who cares!
3. Insult & fight with them, over things they do differently. Mock their values, and thoughts. Ridicule their opinions.
4. Completely ignore what they like.
5. Give priority to everybody except them.
6. Don't trust them! Display your distrust, in public!
7. Also make sure to make no sacrifices for them, what-so-ever.
8. Doubt their capabilities, and do NOT show support & encouragement in difficult times.
9. Discuss your relationship problems with everybody but them.
10. Most importantly, keep pretending that things are going fine!
On the other hand, if you do want it to work, some things, which at least for me are really important are -
- Give each other the due space, not just in life, but in habit, way of life, hobby, activities.
- Give each other the freedom of thought & opinion.
- Respect each others' opinions, and learn to live with them, if possible learn to love & appreciate the beauty of difference.
- Take time to show your appreciation of this difference in thoughts, habits, hobbies, by adapting it once in a while. (for girls - if it means cracking fart-jokes, do it!) (for guys - if it means shopping whole day, go for it!)
- Learn to love, show-off your affection, even in public. (I never had to learn this, tho! :P)
- Learn to assert and put your foot down, for your loved one, even in front of your family, if need be.
- Appreciate the little sacrifices, you both make for each other. I always thought only the girl suffers on the friendship front with her girlfriends, but I realised, so does the guy with his friends.
Apart from the above and some other obvious ones like trust, faith etc etc....it also takes a lot of patience. No two people are same. Can never be. Learn to love the things you don't like about them. Learn to be patient. Also, the thing that is most needed, and almost always ignored, is reassurance. And its needed by both, not just the girl.
I swear I did not pick this out of Cosmo, but I sure do sound like it. And even though these have been iterated time & again, I felt I wanted to note them down. I don't know if a year is enough to judge where a relationship stands. I guess if you are happy, then you are good.
I just want to tell you M, that I am very happy (touch wood) with you. I love you. And I love your singing too, just don't land us behind bars for it, and we'll be good! :D I know we started off roughly, but since then you have made sure we don't sway :). I know and you know, how paranoid I was(sometimes I still am), how difficult it is for you sometimes to shrug off my past, how angry your past actions make me still, but despite all of this we have lasted almost a year(about a month short)!! Yaay for us!! It does not scare me to say that I want to see many more milestones with you. No wait, I am EXCITED to see them!! And also, love you for always always putting my interest before yours. And also being patient with me, with all my tantrums & complaints! And finding me beautiful & sexy when I myself don't feel like it. And wanting to know me inside out, beyond & above anyone has ever ventured to know. And trying to do that. And dreaming for me, dreaming for us. And....so much more....!
Also, stop goofing around and finish "The Kite Runner". And teach me Tennis. Also don't question me about this post. Cos with us, we have an edge due the natural chemistry we share! :)
And lastly - touch wood, touch wood, touch wood!!
For you -
Because of you
I forgot the smart ways to lie
Because of you
I'm running out of reasons to cry
When the friends are gone
When the party's over
We will still belong to each other
Underneath Your Clothes
There's an endless story
There's the man I chose,
There's my territory
- Shakira, "Underneath your clothes"
Edited to add - No more "happy anniversary, awww" mushy comments please :) they are just umm..too mushy!! Saurabh you were the first one so you are excused!! Comments on the rest of it, most welcome :)
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Say No To Corrupt Ministers
The Times of India
May 21,2009
Readers will recall that this paper, through its Lead India initiative, ran a sustained and hard-hitting ‘Say No To Criminals’ campaign in the run-up to the elections. It was therefore with a modest sense of vindication that we reported in our special election edition of May 17 that the Indian voter had given candidates with criminal records a resounding thumbs down.
The time has come to also say no to corruption. The strongest signal Sonia Gandhi and Manmohan Singh can send out to venal netas and their babus is to pack the cabinet with honest and efficient men and women. Let us not continue with ministers who have so brazenly bled the system. The clean-up needs to start at the top. How can we blame the pitiably paid traffic constable or the lowly government clerk for trying to make a buck on the side when their big bosses—be they politicians or bureaucrats—are making a million times more? Corruption has become endemic. Worse, and this is the really sad part, we have come to accept it as a way of life. The fact is, corruption penalizes the honest, distorts important decisions and policies, weakens the moral fibre of a society, and, most grievous of all, robs the really needy. In the extreme, it compromises the safety and security of our country and our people and is therefore as anti-national as an act of terror.
The people of India have given the Prime Minister and the Gandhis a historic opportunity to make a difference. Manmohan’s refusal to back down from the nuclear deal and Rahul’s insistence on soldiering on solo in UP proves they are made of sterner stuff than they were credited with. Keeping out the dishonest is not going to be easy—especially with nominees of Congress’s allies in the UPA—but good governance is also about taking hard, unpopular decisions that fly in the face of political expediency. It’s time we jettisoned our politics of cynicism for a politics of conscience. We are aware that the pundits will laugh this off as the naivete of the hopelessly idealistic, and say “that’s not how the system works”. But change comes because someone somewhere has the courage of conviction—no matter how foolish—to tilt at windmills.
Wow...I am so happy, I am not alone who thinks like this...
The change WILL come! :)
May 21,2009
Readers will recall that this paper, through its Lead India initiative, ran a sustained and hard-hitting ‘Say No To Criminals’ campaign in the run-up to the elections. It was therefore with a modest sense of vindication that we reported in our special election edition of May 17 that the Indian voter had given candidates with criminal records a resounding thumbs down.
The time has come to also say no to corruption. The strongest signal Sonia Gandhi and Manmohan Singh can send out to venal netas and their babus is to pack the cabinet with honest and efficient men and women. Let us not continue with ministers who have so brazenly bled the system. The clean-up needs to start at the top. How can we blame the pitiably paid traffic constable or the lowly government clerk for trying to make a buck on the side when their big bosses—be they politicians or bureaucrats—are making a million times more? Corruption has become endemic. Worse, and this is the really sad part, we have come to accept it as a way of life. The fact is, corruption penalizes the honest, distorts important decisions and policies, weakens the moral fibre of a society, and, most grievous of all, robs the really needy. In the extreme, it compromises the safety and security of our country and our people and is therefore as anti-national as an act of terror.
The people of India have given the Prime Minister and the Gandhis a historic opportunity to make a difference. Manmohan’s refusal to back down from the nuclear deal and Rahul’s insistence on soldiering on solo in UP proves they are made of sterner stuff than they were credited with. Keeping out the dishonest is not going to be easy—especially with nominees of Congress’s allies in the UPA—but good governance is also about taking hard, unpopular decisions that fly in the face of political expediency. It’s time we jettisoned our politics of cynicism for a politics of conscience. We are aware that the pundits will laugh this off as the naivete of the hopelessly idealistic, and say “that’s not how the system works”. But change comes because someone somewhere has the courage of conviction—no matter how foolish—to tilt at windmills.
Wow...I am so happy, I am not alone who thinks like this...
The change WILL come! :)
Monday, May 18, 2009
Random at its peak...
So...for a while now, I have not updated my blog with a detailed post. Partly(here comes the usual whining!!) because I have been so lazy(ha ha..got you there!) and partly cos, I have been a little busy with the semester(and this was the whiny part for those who are confused!)...
Anyhow..I am right now on a summer internship, which also keeps me busy most of the week...and weekends are a fast-paced blur of - movies, drinking, dining....! I want to say that it was a good sem, cos well it really was. I took up good & interesting courses...and learned a lot of new things. I spent most of the semester in the library, and I did not sleep most nights..which does not mean I slept less..cos I more than made up for it during the day sleep! :P
I wondered more than once during the semester, why do they make these courses so darn difficult that there is no place left in life other than studies??I mean there was always something to do..there was never a time when I would sit back for a couple of days knowing all my pending work is done and the new work is gonna come not so soon. No way sir....before I had finished the current work..there was always more piling up!! I then decided, that all the teachers in the world have at some point in time, decided to make life as busy as possible for us students, so that....well I don't know what purpose it serves...if I knew, I wouldn't have been questioning it...right?In any case..it sucks!
Speaking of which, as soon as the summer started, I went online and ordered a bunch of books I planned to read in the summer. I could not read even one new book during the semester..though I did manage to read Jeffrey Archer's Cat O'Nine Tales again :). And now since two weeks of alleged summer/spring have passed us by(though it barely feels like summer here in Boston..damn!) I am happy to announce, that I have already checked one book off the list, which being - Wuthering Heights. And also sad to add that I did not like it at all :(. I mean, I am all for classic love stories(I love love love Pride & Prejudice), but this is not one of them. And the lesser said about it the better. Maybe its me..I was expecting too much..and the least I expect when I read a love story is to like and relate to the protagonists, and this one failed to arouse either emotion in me. Forget liking, I couldn't even sympathize with them. Oh well...! So after that I started reading this book called The Time Traveler's wife by Audrey Niffenegger , another love story which seems really good till now. At least once you get past the fact that it involves time traveling. More updates once I finish it, and I am quite expectant of this one.
And I saw Angels & Demons the movie, this Friday. I was excited to see it, as this book was one of my favs! And I am glad to say that I was more than happy with the outcome. I know many people who have read the book say they did not like it, but I would say that this time they managed to take the best & the most relevant parts of the book and made a good nice movie out of it. Yes he took some liberty to change many parts, but I think it all comes together really well. And as much as I hate to admit, I liked the ending of the movie more than the book's. Ok ok...for those who haven't seen it yet, I will not say anything further. Go watch it for yourself, and let me know what you think!
Over the weekend I also decided to learn to drive and get a license, cos as much as I hate driving, I think I would like to have the freedom to zoom off to long drives, without having to depend on someone. It's going to take a little time, but I will do it.
And next weekend, it being a long weekend, I am off to Acadia National Park with some friends. It looks promising, we have booked a cottage, and we are obviously going to buy a lot of food & alcohol! And I've heard that its beautiful out there...
Later!
Anyhow..I am right now on a summer internship, which also keeps me busy most of the week...and weekends are a fast-paced blur of - movies, drinking, dining....! I want to say that it was a good sem, cos well it really was. I took up good & interesting courses...and learned a lot of new things. I spent most of the semester in the library, and I did not sleep most nights..which does not mean I slept less..cos I more than made up for it during the day sleep! :P
I wondered more than once during the semester, why do they make these courses so darn difficult that there is no place left in life other than studies??I mean there was always something to do..there was never a time when I would sit back for a couple of days knowing all my pending work is done and the new work is gonna come not so soon. No way sir....before I had finished the current work..there was always more piling up!! I then decided, that all the teachers in the world have at some point in time, decided to make life as busy as possible for us students, so that....well I don't know what purpose it serves...if I knew, I wouldn't have been questioning it...right?In any case..it sucks!
Speaking of which, as soon as the summer started, I went online and ordered a bunch of books I planned to read in the summer. I could not read even one new book during the semester..though I did manage to read Jeffrey Archer's Cat O'Nine Tales again :). And now since two weeks of alleged summer/spring have passed us by(though it barely feels like summer here in Boston..damn!) I am happy to announce, that I have already checked one book off the list, which being - Wuthering Heights. And also sad to add that I did not like it at all :(. I mean, I am all for classic love stories(I love love love Pride & Prejudice), but this is not one of them. And the lesser said about it the better. Maybe its me..I was expecting too much..and the least I expect when I read a love story is to like and relate to the protagonists, and this one failed to arouse either emotion in me. Forget liking, I couldn't even sympathize with them. Oh well...! So after that I started reading this book called The Time Traveler's wife by Audrey Niffenegger , another love story which seems really good till now. At least once you get past the fact that it involves time traveling. More updates once I finish it, and I am quite expectant of this one.
And I saw Angels & Demons the movie, this Friday. I was excited to see it, as this book was one of my favs! And I am glad to say that I was more than happy with the outcome. I know many people who have read the book say they did not like it, but I would say that this time they managed to take the best & the most relevant parts of the book and made a good nice movie out of it. Yes he took some liberty to change many parts, but I think it all comes together really well. And as much as I hate to admit, I liked the ending of the movie more than the book's. Ok ok...for those who haven't seen it yet, I will not say anything further. Go watch it for yourself, and let me know what you think!
Over the weekend I also decided to learn to drive and get a license, cos as much as I hate driving, I think I would like to have the freedom to zoom off to long drives, without having to depend on someone. It's going to take a little time, but I will do it.
And next weekend, it being a long weekend, I am off to Acadia National Park with some friends. It looks promising, we have booked a cottage, and we are obviously going to buy a lot of food & alcohol! And I've heard that its beautiful out there...
Later!
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Just came online to declare...
...I am drunk and happy!! :)
Haaaa!!!
Feels so good.... :)
I like putting smileys :)
I put them in professional emails too :)
:) :) :)
I love this song...It portrays what I feel in love...fast..slow..fast..slow..and a sweet feeling in my heart....I'm loving it.....(touch wood!!)
Later!
Haaaa!!!
Feels so good.... :)
I like putting smileys :)
I put them in professional emails too :)
:) :) :)
I love this song...It portrays what I feel in love...fast..slow..fast..slow..and a sweet feeling in my heart....I'm loving it.....(touch wood!!)
Later!
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Wednesday, May 06, 2009
The latest new here is...
Currently reading - Wuthering Heights...
Currently eating - A lot more times at home than before!
Currently sleeping - Little..no make that a lot less than I would like..
Currently drinking - Only water most of the times to avoid extra calories..
Currently feeling - Lost & forlorn...
Good things -
- Good grades
- Have a job in this economy
- Have people around me who love me a lot
Bad things -
- Miss someone a lot
- Miss my old job
- Still can't fit into size 2
What about you??
Currently eating - A lot more times at home than before!
Currently sleeping - Little..no make that a lot less than I would like..
Currently drinking - Only water most of the times to avoid extra calories..
Currently feeling - Lost & forlorn...
Good things -
- Good grades
- Have a job in this economy
- Have people around me who love me a lot
Bad things -
- Miss someone a lot
- Miss my old job
- Still can't fit into size 2
What about you??
Sunday, April 05, 2009
~Me & my cons~
- I feel jealous very very quickly and easily.
- I am very very possessive when it comes to some people and in a bad way.
- I am not good at maintaining personal relationships.
- I am anti-social, in a big big way.
- I don't remember dates, names OR faces.
- I have very very bad memory.
- I lack sensitivity intuition BIG time.
- I can't talk to people unless they talk to me.
- Which means I can't talk to most people.
- I can NEVER talk about my feelings without feeling awkward.
- I hate feeling awkward.
- Hence I almost NEVER talk about my feelings.
- I hate melodrama.
- And yet ironically my best friends are very dramatic! (not a cons just a fact to note).
- I talk too frankly and bluntly(edited from "sharply" as suggested by someone), which almost always hurts people who are close to me. I don't want to change that about me, but I really think I should.
- I am a very confused person when it comes to most things.
Added these as suggested by the same someone-
- I have double standards
Later!
PS: This is not an exhaustive list. More to come later.
- I am very very possessive when it comes to some people and in a bad way.
- I am not good at maintaining personal relationships.
- I am anti-social, in a big big way.
- I don't remember dates, names OR faces.
- I have very very bad memory.
- I lack sensitivity intuition BIG time.
- I can't talk to people unless they talk to me.
- Which means I can't talk to most people.
- I can NEVER talk about my feelings without feeling awkward.
- I hate feeling awkward.
- Hence I almost NEVER talk about my feelings.
- I hate melodrama.
- And yet ironically my best friends are very dramatic! (not a cons just a fact to note).
- I talk too frankly and bluntly(edited from "sharply" as suggested by someone), which almost always hurts people who are close to me. I don't want to change that about me, but I really think I should.
- I am a very confused person when it comes to most things.
Added these as suggested by the same someone-
- I have double standards
Later!
PS: This is not an exhaustive list. More to come later.
Found a quote...
...related to the previous post and mood -
"When you are through changing, you are through."
- Bruce Barton
"When you are through changing, you are through."
- Bruce Barton
I don't know what the title should be!
Disclaimer: This is most impromptu post I've ever written.
Today marks the birthday of 2 closest friends. One goes a long long way back, some seven years, and another just two. And yet, I feel I have lived a lifetime with both of them. Seen so many ups and downs...and today I am just glad, to still have them around.
But when I look back, from the time I came to US, life has changed so rapidly in just a span of two years, that its almost impossible to catchup with it and cope. So many friendships made, broken, mended....and some just remain in a limbo...Or maybe I am just in denial of them being broken.
When I try and evaluate, I cannot help but wonder, when did it become so difficult to make and maintain friendships? When did it become a thing that came naturally to me, to a thing that I find myself struggling with today? When did I turn into an anti-social being who cannot keep even two steady friends in life? Or am I just over-reacting?
My mind is just going crazy with questions right now!!
uuuuugggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh! I hate it!
Today marks the birthday of 2 closest friends. One goes a long long way back, some seven years, and another just two. And yet, I feel I have lived a lifetime with both of them. Seen so many ups and downs...and today I am just glad, to still have them around.
But when I look back, from the time I came to US, life has changed so rapidly in just a span of two years, that its almost impossible to catchup with it and cope. So many friendships made, broken, mended....and some just remain in a limbo...Or maybe I am just in denial of them being broken.
When I try and evaluate, I cannot help but wonder, when did it become so difficult to make and maintain friendships? When did it become a thing that came naturally to me, to a thing that I find myself struggling with today? When did I turn into an anti-social being who cannot keep even two steady friends in life? Or am I just over-reacting?
My mind is just going crazy with questions right now!!
uuuuugggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh! I hate it!
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